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Amanda Tomlins's avatar

Amazing article Valerie.

You speak of and for me. I could have written every word of it, except it’s me that’s vulnerable - and it wouldn’t be nearly as brilliantly expressed!

So much stood out, it’s impossible to choose. But the sentence below sums it up for me - both my 50 years of complex chronic illness (which includes Transverse Myelitis like your son) - and navigating this pandemic in a world of full of people who couldn’t give a damn about the most vulnerable, who have no idea what it means for us and no desire to understand:

‘Every single step along the way had a level of fight that is hard to articulate for the uninitiated.’

Thanks for your terrific, warm, funny, intelligent insightful, comforting way with words. I look forward to them now, you help me stay sane and keep going.

Amanda🙏💜

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MundiLou's avatar

You brilliantly describe life as I know it now. I've only been dealing with it since December of 2021. My first and only covid infection. I caught it on a flight from Iowa to California for a Christmas trip. The first flight I had taken in decades. I had never seen the ocean at 50 years old. I was masked the whole trip, except I took my mask down to eat a snack on the plane. (We didn't have all of the information then that we have now about Covid). That bucket list trip turned into a nightmare. I became I'll & lost my taste/smell on 12/28/21. Thinking that I wouldn't be allowed on a plane to get back to Iowa, my bf & I started driving back from California. We made it as far as Tucson before I started having trouble breathing. I was hospitalized from 1/2/22-4/1/22. 62 of those days on a ventilator. My kidneys failed, I had several cardiac events, and a brain bleed that led to seizures. I don't know how I survived, but I did. Pre-covid, I was an athlete and full-time employed as an accountant. Today, I am disabled and terrified of what another Covid infection could do. I am cut off from the world and am painfully aware that I am disposable in the eyes of the back to normal crowd.

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